To get a sense of how powerful your beliefs are, maybe it's smart to take them apart a bit first. Hugely simplified, a thought is just this "thing" that pops into your head that you ponder on for a short period of time. Or maybe longer. A belief is a thought or series of thoughts that you pondered on a lot and over the course of that time, you took it on as a "truth". Then you started to react to it in life, it became a construct you subscribe to and then, you compare all the
Let me hit you with a bomb: you create your reality. Sure, things are happening all around you. Sometimes it might even feel like they're happening to you-but I'm asking you to look deeper than that. Let's get a little quantum-mechanical... Stripped down to bare bones, everything in life is just data. It's just data in front of you-as if you were standing in front of a swirling mass of people, places and things (which I'll call "events") and from each of those swirling pieces
Purpose is one of the things that drives the human experience. It doesn't require extensive research to prove that people who don't feel they have a purpose, are not in touch with their purpose or aren't living their purpose are not entirely happy. In my coaching experience, I listen to people go around and around things in their lives, not able to initially articulate that this is the cause of much of their inner dissatisfaction. We want our lives to mean something. We want
Disclaimer: You may not agree with all of these. Maybe you'll think there's some missing. Everyone needs to know what they're looking for-so, there's that. I have found, however, in the many years that I've been coaching with productive results, that there are a few factors that make a coaching relationship work...or not. It's a two way street of course and this post offers my perspective of the factors that need to be employed by both coach and participant in order for it to
I was speaking at a conference last year and a man in the audience approached me afterward to talk about some of his experiences with the behavioral material I presented. After a few minutes of poking fun at ourselves for things that we've done, he laughed and said: “ I wish I just knew when I was being a jerk!” I laughed and told him I thought that would make a great blog post series and inspired by something that recently happened to my daughter, I think it's time we put t
There are a lot of things I need to work on-I'm ok with that. Then, there are a few things that I rock and allowing others to have their truths, speak their truths and discuss their truths is one of them. I'm not without opinion of course, but the thing we need to remember about opinion is that it boxes us in and really roots us into being this kind of one-dimensional being, uber fused with our "person-hood". What's wrong with that? I've been asked. We are people after all..